20Oct

Why do I need to be thin?

workyIt seems that on sites like LookBook or Chictopia you only get hype and fans if you are thin. But there are a few quite fat girls, bigger than me, who look amazing and have tons of followers.

So it’s not just thin girls that get hype – although mainly it is – but also fat girls too.

I’m somewhere in the middle and I don’t get hype. I don’t understand that. It’s not as if it’s my looks because they all get similar amounts of hype.

Then there’s the prejudice around fat girls want to buy clothes, work in fashion or just go shopping. I don’t have shopping issues any more, at least not like I did. But I feel that when I tell people that I run a fashion blog that they are thinking ‘really? But you’re fat.’

I’m not going to say that clothes look better on girls with curves because that’s something different to saying clothes look good on fat girls. If you know how to dress and tailor your style to your shape then clothes can look good on anyone, you just have to do it right, it doesn’t matter if yo’re skinny, curvy or fat.

I sort of feel that I don’t got a great deal of comments or love on my blog because I’m a fat girl writing about fashion. Maybe I should promote this blog to plus size communities but why do I have to pigeon-hole myself. This isn’t a plus size fashion blog. I cover everything from high street and designer to plus size retailers. I’ve even covered the sites that don’t go up to my size. I can still know about and love fashion even if I’m not a skinny model.

Yes this is a rant and you’re probably all bored of posts like this cropping up on the internet but I want to know -

Do you have to be thin to be popular (in life, blogging or Lookbook)?

Discuss…

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  1. I promote on twitter and such and also leave comments on other blogs it helps, but I also am not doing a personal style blog maybe that helps I don’t really hit the plus size communities either. Maybe that’s because I work in fashion marketing for a place that sells pretty much juniors clothing that doesn’t go into the plus size range so most of my research stays moderate. I like to kill two birds with one stone in this case.

  2. I do that too. It’s obviously my posts that don’t engage readers into commenting. I think I get a good amount of hits per month.

  3. Wow, this is such an eye opener. I’m actually compelled to write a response to this on my blog. Honey, you are beautiful! And you’re right, you don’t have to be rail thin to appreciate fashion or to express it. So many curvy women out here are misguided and think that fashion isn’t for them – NOT TRUE. March on and keep posting those outfits. Don’t let the modelesque homepage hoggers on those fashion communities make you feel any less like the beauty that you are ;)

    Cece from LoveBrownSugar

  4. Thank you!
    I think women who aren’t stick thin need to realised that style isn’t about fashion and being able to shop in all the trendy shops. It’s about working with what you’ve got and making it look hot!

  5. Nooo, i’d stick to what you’re doing, why should you have to label yourself. In any case you are not what i consider to be a ‘plus-size’ (for want of a better word. I hate labels!
    I totally agree about the hypes, although i do think it’s not just skinny girls who get the hype, it’s also mostly teens, long hair, very pretty…you get the picture… I think most of the hype style sitess have emutated into a beauty/and or popularity contest than their original purpose which was to showcase normal people with great style.
    To me, blogging is all about, normal girls and women having a voice, my favourite bloggers are usually not the most well-known or the most popular but bloggers with a great deal of personality, voice and style that i can relate, even if not agree with, or ladies i admire. They are all sizes and age ranges.
    And anyone who gives you less than glowing reaction to the fact that you’re a fashion blogger needs to check themselves…you don’t have to be a particular size to know fashion

    ha, sorry to rant on, LOVED this post
    x

  6. Girls who get “hype”, don’t achieve it because they’re thin, but because they can do something others can’t.

    It’s the girl with the special style, or the little kid blogger, or the rude fat girl, who stand out. There are tons of thin girls with boring fashion blogs. Who cares about that?

    Want to get the fame? Be different. Find your unique style. Work hard!

  7. You don’t have to be thin to be fashionable. I go to alot of fat fashion blogs and I usually don’t comment, I am too busy looking at the clothes! and soemtimes bloggers have these weird commentary log in that require you to have a site or a blogger account which most of us don’t have. This is my first time on your site, this post was mentioned on Love Brown Sugar’s blog and I am loving your blog!

    Keep doing what you do, life is too short to worry about being ‘accepted’ by society. You didn’t get into blogging to be popular, did you? You are doing a good job. Just keep doing you. You will reap your rewards in the future, you’ll see.

  8. And by the way, you are NOT fat. There are more girls who are your age and are fatter than you. Everything looks bad from our own eyes but believe me when I tell you that you are not fat.

  9. Oddly enough, it’s the unspoken norms and conditioning that make people gravitate towards ‘thin is best’ and ‘thin is beautiful’. In some sense, ‘thin’ can wear loads of clothes without looking skanky unlike ‘curvy’, but. . as a girl who has finally grown out of being massively underweight, I think it’s always best to feel secure the way you are. It’s not the easiest, there’re gonna be days when you feel down and wonder and worry, but being comfortable in your own skin is always best. That doesn’t mean you can take for granted your size but . . I guess, it’s a case of ‘as long as I like what I see’ :)
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  10. I hate to be cynical, but maybe the people giving “hype” to the big girls are other big girls? Worse still, maybe there’s something patronising going on; you know, the way women yell “you go girl!” when their fat friend gets on the dancefloor…

    Either way, it’s probably best not to be too introspective. You have a fashion blog because you love fashion, not because you love people clicking “Thumbs Up” next to it. Well, maybe there is some affirmation to be found in it, but it’s certainly not the only reason.

    Keep enjoying what you’re doing, and your readerbase will continue to expand :) Oh, and you’re not “fat”, you’re just you and that’s great!

    x
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  11. You’re lucky they wouldn’t even let me join Lookbook!
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  12. I kind of just think you DO have to be thin (and beautiful) to get anywhere on Lookbook. Although I’m not a member of Chictopia, it doesn’t seem quite so bad. I think the plus size girls that have a big Lookbook following built their own followings through their blogs, Facebooks and Twitters and then took them over. I’ve given up on Lookbook!
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  13. This post isn’t redundant at all; this is a topic with almost infinite potential for discussion.

    What I believe is happening has a lot of components…
    1) The media in general, but especially fashion ads, editorials, and shows, prizes a rail-thin figure as the ideal.
    2) This ideal is divorced from what people attracted to women actually want, statistics-wise.
    3) Women themselves, however, tend to believe that sexual attractiveness is the same as the media ideal
    4) People who look at fashion websites probably think good style is attractive
    5) People who look at fashion websites probably also spend a lot of time looking at other fashion media
    6) Tastemakers like The Sartorialist, Facehunter, etc., tend to favor thin, attractive people
    7) Images of attractive, thin, white women resonate more with fashion website viewers because they embody the perceived ideal and are therefore most attractive.

    But it’s all bullshit. And you are definitely not fat.

    <3 Sophi

  14. BRAVA! This is everything I’ve been thinking about but didn’t know how to put into words.

    Also, you are GORGEOUS!

  15. Interesting. I had an inkling that yes, in order to maximize traffic benefits from fashion/social networking sites like Chictopia and Lookbook, one needs to be thin, young, and Caucasian. It’s sad, but what can one possibly do to make a difference when we are, face it, talking about consumerist fashion. That’s why I like to call my blog a style blog, something that’s personal and steady.

    Arianne from A + B in the Sea

  16. Thank you <3

    Thank you to you all. x

  17. I feel your frustration well… although I’m not actively trying to increase traffic on my blog or get sponsors, I love that I have a few non-family readers who take an interest in what I’m trying to do!

    I have the double-whammy of being a fat girl in a conservative job. Not the most popular subject matter for a fashion blog.

    But you can absolutely rock your blog! I regularaly read blogs by fat and thin girls… although most are in between. One of my favorites is a boy dressing as a girl.

    Some people might think I run myself down because I post my “figure flaws” on a list to the side. I’m not… these factors just make it tough to find great clothes.

    I blog successes and trainwrecks… so there may be some rubberneckers… but the comments are constructive but kind.

    So rock on!
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  18. ” I can still know about and love fashion even if I’m not a skinny model.” – exactly my feelings.

    I was just discussing this with my co-blogger (who incidentally is very modelesque, just shy) – we know just as much or more about fashion than the stick-thin girls with blogs that are 90% awkward pictures of themselves in clothes they got for free. and that’s frustrating, because people like us work hard on their blogs.

  19. I agree with everything you’ve said. Before I came across you article, I was one of those who believed that you should be skinny in order to be accepted in the fashion world, but that changed. You changed me. Thank you very much for this eye opener. I wish I could share your article with other people so that they would learn too. God bless you

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